Dependence vs. Independence


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Those of us, who find our way to spirituality, usually have done so as the result of being in pain in some way. Our needs have not been met. We feel an empty dissatisfaction with life itself because of it. Most of us are also not strangers to self-abuse in its multitude of different forms. But even though we feel better once we find spiritual truths to live our life by, our ways have not completely changed. We use spiritual truths as a tool to beat ourselves with. And one of those spiritual truths that we use to torture ourselves with is sacred to us. It is the teaching of independent self-sufficiency.
Ultimately, to recognize independence, is to recognize yourself as apart and divisible from the collective. This recognition is only beneficial to move you from a feeling of powerlessness to others to a feeling of empowerment. It ceases to be beneficial and instead, becomes detrimental when it causes you to feel isolated and separate and as if the weight of the world is on your shoulders alone.
So why does dependence scare us so badly? Because we don't trust that we create our own reality. We doubt our ability to create. It has nothing to do with hating that we depend on other things. It's about hating that we feel as if we are powerless to other things creating our reality. Depending on something would not be a problem at all if we trusted that we could create what we are dependent on; that is wasn't out of our hands what experience we had and therefore out of our hands how we felt. In this episode of Ask Teal, Teal explains that we are interdependent and that we need not fear dependence, because we are all dependent.

Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel - used by permissionhttp://www.sacreddream.com